I do think the precept to reconcile is with "one another." meaning with Believers withing your assembly of Believers. A Bible verse that comes to mind is when Jesus warned, "Your enemies will be right in your own household!" in Matthew 10. Still, the advice to talk with your pastor or trusted Believer friend is probably a good suggestion (read Proverbs 11:14). Continue to read the Bible and seek Jesus presence in your life.